Choose Happiness

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"happiness is not a matter of good fortune or worldly possessions...it's a MENTAL ATTITUDE...it comes from appreciating what we have instead of being miserable about what we don't have. It is so simple, yet so hard for the human mind to comprehend"
As I've shared here, I suffered from depression after my daughter passed away. I use to cry frequently throughout the day, every. single. day. I felt alone...hopeless...helpless...less than...every negative adjective you can think of, I've felt it...and still feel it sometimes. One day I woke up and randomly declared that I was happy, though I was quite the opposite. But I wanted to be happy again. I couldn't just be happy, I had to work on it. A little everyday. I found a hobby (I'm sure you've all noticed I've been blogging more than ever), read motivational books, watched motivational programs on television (Oprah's Lifeclass is the best thing that ever happened to me) and dove head first into my Faith. Those are the things that personally worked for me, but everyones journey to reclaiming happiness is different.
One of the biggest things that helped me was Dr. Wayne Dyer's concept of "change your thoughts, change your life". How does one change their thought when they're in despair? Just do it. It sounds too simple to work...but that's all it is. Choose happiness.
For me, whenever I think about the weight of my situation and I feel my eyes watering up, I find something else to focus on immediately. Whenever I look in the mirror and I'm disappointed with the reflection staring back at me, I find something else to do. Of course, once in a while my emotions may get the best of me, but it happens far less frequently than before. It's like exercise, you feel better as time goes on.
Negative thoughts and emotions only attract even more negative thoughts and emotions to you. Saying you want to be happy, but then crying in bed all day...will only attract more negativity. Do the work. No one else can do it for you.
You can choose happiness.